Doesn't really pertain to the Blog, but thought it would bring a smile to your face. |
An exciting norm of our society, for
women at least (although some include men), is our ceremonial ritual of a
bridal shower. As adults, we’ve realized that the young couple will be heading
out on their own, and consequently without the resources of their parents’
garages, cupboards, and attics we host a “shower” to bestow upon them gifts we
know they’ll need! With so many of the young
people that we know getting married, an interesting dinner conversation occurred
in our house a year or so ago, but has stuck with me.
Quilt and Afghan Things you need for your home! |
My oldest daughter, who was getting
ready to leave to serve out of state in an AmeriCorps position, asked why don’t
we have “showers” to celebrate young people just heading out on their own. Her
points were valid as she brought up the fact she was going to need most things
that a young married couple would need.
She’d need the tool kit to fix items in her home, lawn mower to take
care of her yard, dishes to eat on, pots and appliances to cook with, towels
for the bathroom, lamps for the living room, bed to sleep on, dresser for her
clothing, etc., etc.,
Rite of Passage to receive your set of tools! |
The conversation then transitioned to
how differently the paths are today from previous generations. A generation or so ago, couples married right
out of high school; they went from parents’ homes to their home. Then it seemed
the norm was to complete college and then be wed, with the couples still not
actually “on their own”. Going from dorm
living/dining hall living to your own home still wasn’t really experiencing
self-reliance.
Present day couples seem to come
together with two apartments worth of “stuff” that they must now find a way to
mesh together. Suddenly there may be 2
toasters---whose is better? Now as we buy wedding gifts, we are beyond the need
to furnish them with the basics, they have that.
So, back to the dinner conversation……….
Extra quilts and blankets for the bed |
We debated what few items someone would
actually “have to have”. I KNOW this is will be different for different people; however, these are the TWO items that my
daughter had to have:
1) DeWALT battery screwdriver/drill
2) Family
recipes! Doesn’t quite seem to be what the average 25 year old would ask for,
does it?
J
(Although,
I use my DeWalt almost every day, so I understood her feeling that she couldn’t
possibly live without one.)
Gentle breezes (and gale force gusts) help create the beautiful sounds from the wind chimes |
Knowing that we could easily provide
both of those items (and we even threw in a beautiful sounding set of wind
chimes that she could hang near her window to remind her of the sounds coming from
the porch at her home many states away), my youngest daughter and I started
putting together a cookbook of favorite recipes. We did it in “scrapbook” style
with family photos included to bring back memories whenever she cooked.
A recipe that my mother had written to put in my book over 30 years ago! |
We hand
wrote each recipe card and included heartwarming family trivia on every one of
them. We covered breakfasts, casseroles, dinners, desserts, breads, hors d’oeuvres,
punches, salads, holiday recipes, soups….you name it, it was there.
What was even more special about this task
was that many of the recipes that we were copying to put in her book, were from
recipes that MY MOTHER made to put into MY book back in 1980! This gift to my
daughter was just another way of keeping the generations connected.
Large Gingerbread House that I made |
As a family tradition, each year at
Christmas I bake MANY gingerbread houses.
We assembly them all and then decorate to give as gifts to friends. Of course we keep one or two for our house,
too!
Her Grandfather and Great-Grandfather decorating mini gingerbread houses that I'd made for a family Christmas party 20 years ago. |
I baked mini gingerbread houses for both daughters' classrooms each year and the students decorated them. |
Needless to say, she loves her DeWalt;
however, even though she has a camera, smart cards, and flashdrives full of
photos, she says she loves to get out the cookbook, hold it, and think of home.
I hope this prompts thoughts of ways
that you can help make the young people you have in your life adjust a little
easier to life on their own, while still keeping the connection there for
generations to come.